Stand in Your Truth
Be a mountain of strength for yourself
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
Chinese Proverb
I have learnt, albeit the hard way, to relax into being me. The most authentic, best version of me. Because when I feel good and in flow, everything moves.
Well-meaning people in my life have voiced their opinions, sometimes quite loudly about how they think I ‘should’ behave or be. Society has also consistently whispered in my ear what it means to be successful and how I ‘should’ live my life.
We live in a culture that praises ‘doing’ and postures ‘being’ as an afterthought. I was influenced into believing that I was lazy or unproductive for not working myself into the ground in a 9-5 job. I felt abnormal and wrong to even consider allowing myself to dream about what it means to live according to my truth.
Then a few years ago, through the ending of my marriage, I was given the opportunity to completely overhaul my life and to re-evaluate how I flow through it. This experience led me to explore and refine my beliefs, values and how I viewed success.
A big part of this process was unveiling the truth of who I am and loving myself. Truly accepting and liking myself for who I am. Connecting and tuning into my mind, body and soul.
During my heartbreak and grief, I was like a tightly coiled spring, tense from head to toe. My head full of self-deprecating, overthinking thoughts. My shoulders like blocks of concrete that in turn made my head pound and my jaw ache from clenching. My stomach in knots of anxiety and waves of overwhelm. Along with a debilitating fear that I was not good enough.
Loving people around me would say things like ‘Of course you’re good enough, you’re lovely just the way you are’. Yet it took some time to come to my own acceptance of this. When faced with certain life events, like for me, my husband of twenty years ending our marriage abruptly, it takes time to process, heal and recover.
The writing was on the wall with my marriage when I began to stick my head above the parapet and ask for more- more balance, more respect, more love. A fire had ignited within me, small embers of insight at first had fueled a burning desire not settle for conditional love.
The more I authentically pursued my goals and spoke my truth by asking for what I wanted and needed, like a puff of smoke he was gone.
“…when you love yourself enough to stand in your truth no matter what the cost, everyone benefits. You start attracting the kinds of things, people, and opportunities, that are in alignment with who you truly are…”
Jen Sincero (You are a Badass)
After my life had turned into a forest fire, destroying everything in sight, something very beautiful emerged from the ashes- my truth.
I took one step at a time until the path ahead became clear. Support, synchronicities and strategy began to flow. Guidance came from everywhere, a Facebook post, a song on the radio and chance conversations.
The key was to check in with myself and truly listen to my truth, when I did this magic happened. The ideal job appeared, financial support was granted and emotional nurturing found its way to me with ease.
It involved some courage and strength, sometimes I had to put my ‘big girl’ pants on and whilst standing resolutely in my truth asking for what I needed. It was absolutely worth the effort and I was rewarded way beyond my expectations.
Life taught me to trust myself again.
Life taught me to believe in myself again.
Life taught me to love myself again.
Now when I feel ‘tense’ and out of sorts, I find ways to get back into ease, flow and grace. In this state I am my most creative, productive and above all content.
5 Tips for Standing in Your Truth
- Listen to your inner knowing- it may be a whisper at first. The more you trust and follow it the louder it will become.
2. Know that life is for you and not against you, particularly in times of upheaval.
3. Your ability to trust people and believe what they say means that you are honest and expect the same in return. That’s a beautiful gift, not a flaw.
4. If something feels ‘off’, it’s ‘off’.
5. Believe in yourself and remind yourself often about your strengths and gifts.
My specialty is to help you to connect with your truth. To discover your own buried treasure and to access greater flow in life.
Life can be harmonious if you stand in your truth.
Let me know if you would like some assistance with this.
